Monday, March 23, 2009

Breaching the subject

If it wasn't obvious, this blog and my twitter account are anonymous - it's not that I want to be this private, but there are just a lot of people I'd prefer didn't read this type of information about me - family, most coworkers, old friends. Because I have such a huge online presence in my "real" life, the connections would be quick and widespread, and there's even a chance it could hurt me professionally.

So here we are.

I envision a world where we can talk about sex and pleasure and good times without the social weirdness that goes along with it. But I'm as guilty as anyone else - most of what's stopping me is that I say things that I just want some people to see.

This of course, brings up another question - what about the people who don't know about this side of me, but I'd like for them to? For the most part, these are women I'm interested in, but that don't know I'm a swinger. I worry that while they're my friends, they're really not that interested in my sex life (hell, I have plenty of friends whose sex lifes are entirely unappealing/uninteresting to me). I don't want to totally change our relationship dynamic for the worst, but fear that may be the risk if I'd like it to change for the sexy.

Thoughts? Advice?

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

When the drive for one pleasure replaces another

You know those people who start a blog with good intentions, then stop posting after a little while?

Yeah, that's been me.

I have the regular set of excuses, too - tired, busy, Daylight Saving Time, whatever. I thought I should write something down, though.

So here I am.

The normal pleasures of life - most namely good food and good sex - have been replaced with the drive for good sleep. This too will pass: 7am won't feel like 6am by next week, and I won't be suddenly awake when I should be going to bed. None of this will replace the "busy" excuse, but it'll help, I'm sure.

Speaking of busy, the wife and I aren't making the most of our Adult Friend Finder membership. I don't think we're the only people with grand intentions of meeting new people, only to forget to login, reply to email, or generally socialize with those we could eventually meet. Does this happen to you? If you're on AFF too, let me know - it's a nice place to share pics, etc. without the total openness of even this anonymous blog. Either way, I'd love to hear your thoughts!