Monday, July 20, 2009

Recap: Sexy good times

So, yeah, orgy.

It was pretty awesome. Three couples, lots of naked fun, and quite a few "first times" with various things, especially for the ladies. Everyone really enjoyed themselves (as should be the case), and while four couples would have been better, three was still great.

All that said, my sex blogging and now sex party experience is teaching me quite a bit about what I like, what I want, and what I can do without and still be happy. A voyeur at heart, I love to watch. I like to see people pleasured, I like to see them try new things, and I just like to watch sex - it's hot, of course, but it's also interesting. In some ways, it's more interesting when I'm done with being aroused (usually after I've finished) - it's primal, and mechanical, and truly an interesting use of the body.

All the watching, of course, is only good to a certainly point - you go to an orgy for the sex. I like the variety offered, being able to touch and grope around, have a little of this and a little of that. The interesting people arrangements (MF, MFF, MFMF, etc.) are great as well - involving more people in the act is still very novel to me. We actually didn't do a whole lot of that this party - there were pairings, and often one or more people on either end of the pairing, but not for long, and not as the primary action. But there's always next time.

I think the most interesting thing for me was that this party really helped to solidify what I'm not looking for, both in group sex and one-on-one sex. In a group, I don't want to be tied down (figuratively, at least) - I want to sample the offerings. I want to jump from one person to the next, maybe 15-20 minutes at a time with breaks in between. I don't want to be with one person most or all of the time - it makes me feel like I'm beholden to them, and solely responsible for their pleasure, when I've got other things, and other people, to do. Part of it is the "host" in me - I'm always moving around my regular parties, making sure everyone's having fun. The same goes for the orgy.

I'm also a huge fan of just making out/touching, even if it's not specifically part of having sex. Is that weird?

Logistically, this thing was as tough to plan as I thought it would be - weird schedules, hotel plans, travel - all made it annoying. After any sort of party I'm usually ready for a break from having to plan the next. But it was certainly worth it, and I'll likely have another before long. But it'll be in Northern California - almost everyone who'd be interesting in coming lives up there. I'm looking forward to it, so I must have done something right the last time.

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Just curious...

As a guy, I know most of us masturbate, and do it fairly regularly. I've met some guys who say they don't, and while I have no reason to think they're lying, I'm not convinced. I don't think the number's 100%, but I'd bet it's close.

Now, women - I dunno. I know a lot of sex-positive women who freely and openly discuss their masturbation habits, and some of them think that a similar (95%) amount of all women masturbate. In my small-yet-detailed sample set of friends, however, quite a few do not masturbate, and quite a few others do it very, very rarely. Some, of course, do it all the time, and that's fine. That's better than fine, actually.

Based on my life experiences, I'd put it like this:

% men who masturbate at all: 98%
% men who masturbate regularly (once a week): 85%
% men who masturabte daily, when possible: 70-80%

% women who masturbate at all: 75%
% women who masturbate regularly (once a week): 60%
% women who masturabte daily, when possible: 35-40%

So, my question: Ladies, do most other ladies masturbate? Do you? Regularly? Do your men? Do my numbers jive with what you've seen in your life? I haven't looked at any studies/polls/surveys, but I'm curious what the word on the street is.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Oww my balls!

I love a lot of things, but pain and ball torture aren't in the list. So why would a guy like me willingly take off his pants in front of a strange man intent on abusing my testicles?

Oh, there's a reason.

In a very unsexual 15 minutes, I went from having nature's most primal ability to having a 2cm incision, a numb scrotum, and what the government likes to call a "sterilization procedure" - a vasectomy. Some surprises:

- It really didn't hurt. There was tugging at first, and the needle-less anesthesia felt like repeated rubber band snaps, but once that was all happening, there was a dude slicing into my sack, and I really couldn't feel it.

- It took 15 minutes. Start to finish. Pants off to pants on. It was all done in a regular exam room, and the only special equipment was the cauterizer. I was able to walk out and go home right afterward.

- Recovery was quick. I was a little afraid of swelling and bleeding (the common risks), but there wasn't much of either. I had my first orgasm about 36 hours after the procedure, and all went well.

I'm 8 days out, now, and everything's pretty much back to normal. The boys do seem to be sitting differently, but that might be my imagination. Orgasms feel exactly the same, and so far, my cum has the same consistency. It does take a while to clean out the pipes, but it's not supposed to change. I do wish the doctor would have told me that bruising and discoloration commonly doesn't start until day 5 and lasts a while, but that's mostly gone now too. A dozen or so more orgasms, and I'll be ready for unprotected, full blast, balls out good times.