Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Sexy resolutions

I'm not really big on New Years resolutions - I'm more of a "do it when it needs doing" kinda guy. But new beginnings are always a good time to give yourself some goals, and while most of mine are pretty run-of-the-mill, There's always time to share some of the more explicit ones. My sexy goals for 2010:

- Host another sex party. The last one was great - all friends, very comfortable situation, and some very hot sex. I've got more friends interested, but they're up and down the state. I'm aiming for 4-5 couples. This one is totally doable.

- Broach the subject. I think I have more friends who would be totally comfortable knowing more about my lifestyle, and I'm not a huge fan about keeping this kind of secret. I'd like to let more friends know the basics, and they can inquire more if they're interested.

- See you naked. Well, again. It's been a while.

- Meet more swingers. I'd like to meet at least one other couple in person with the girlfriend (most likely from AFF) and see if we're a good match. We've had good luck with two of the three we've met in the past, so it's worth trying again.

- Masturbate more. My numbers were way down in 2009, for a variety of reasons. I started to pick it up in 3Q, but it wasn't enough to give me a year-over-year increase over 2008. I have high hopes for 2010.

- Have a mutually-agreed upon one-night stand. Friend or semi-stranger, either one is good.

I'm sure there are more, and I'll talk about them once I think of them.

What are yours?

Friday, December 4, 2009

Educate me about fisting...

...because I'm curious.

I'm not one to require a good reason to do something sexual, but I've found that most popular sex acts (and lots of less popular ones) have a good reason behind them. Is the point of fisting simply to do it because you can? To see if your whole hand (and some of your arm) fits? Is the fist used to thrust like a giant cock? Or more like an anal toy that's placed to provide pleasure through stretching? I've never seen it done in real life, so I'm honestly curious. Your insights are welcome.

Thursday, December 3, 2009

Random thoughts of the day

A friend asked me today "how many couples use toys in regular sex play?". I told her that I don't, at least not regularly, but that has as much to do with my lady not being into them as it does with my (or our) desire to spice things up. I have a sneaking suspicion that for couples, most toy use is specifically aimed at aiding and achieving female orgasm - not that there's anything wrong with that.

I think the next group sex event will be in Vegas, if only because it's as central as anywhere else, and hotel suites are plentiful. I wish inviting all the people I'd like there wasn't made awkward by some of those people's past associations with each other. Such is life.

I need to start a support group (or social group?) for swingers who happen to have kids. I'm having trouble coming up with a name, however, that won't get me weird looks or accusations of unsavory intentions.

Anyone have any good advice for broaching the subject of swinging with friends? I always feel like I'm gonna come off like a pervert for bringing up the subject, but waiting for the right "in" usually means never talking about it at all.

That's all for today. Thanks for reading! Thanks more for commenting and adding your own thoughts to mine! =D