Friday, December 4, 2009

Educate me about fisting...

...because I'm curious.

I'm not one to require a good reason to do something sexual, but I've found that most popular sex acts (and lots of less popular ones) have a good reason behind them. Is the point of fisting simply to do it because you can? To see if your whole hand (and some of your arm) fits? Is the fist used to thrust like a giant cock? Or more like an anal toy that's placed to provide pleasure through stretching? I've never seen it done in real life, so I'm honestly curious. Your insights are welcome.

4 comments:

  1. You might be talking about anal, about which I am very much in agreement with you, but I do have insight in a slightly different area.

    I was never clear on the point of fisting myself - always thought it would hurt if done vaginally due to physical limitations - but recently someone fisted me vaginally and it shook my world. I thought he was just fingering me using maybe three fingers or so - but it is hard to tell, the nerves aren't THAT sensitive down there. But what I did know was I was totally lost in pleasure, had literally never felt so overcome. I must have shown my surprise at how good it felt because he started telling me what he was doing. He told me, as he demonstrated, how he could use one finger deep inside to stimulate what he called the tail of the clitoris, and add another finger not as deep to stimulate the G-spot. The first spot felt great, but when he added that second spot, I was just writhing.

    Next chance I had I turned to web research to figure out this tail-of-the-clitoris thing. I think he was wrong about what exactly he was stimulating - it seems to be anatomically impossible just due to the angle and how deep inside his fingers were. But I also figured out (largely by how SORE I was for the next two days) that he must have fisted me, and that is why it felt so good. For me personally when I'm in the moment my mind tends to block pain to a certain degree, and convert it to pleasure. I didn't know it was hurting until we were done and I calmed down.

    Maybe that is why fisting appeals to some people - the whole pain/pleasure aspect...

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  2. Thank you! A lot of fisting in porn seems to be just thrusting with the hand and forearm, which seems totally painful and weird to me. I do a lot of manipulating with my fingers inside, but I've never had more than three in at once. I'd love a partner with more experience in such things to show me what feels good to her - I think there's a lot of pleasure I'm missing out on giving.

    Of course, I have large hands...don't know if that's good or bad...

    Also, anal fisting is another topic for another day, but don't go looking for related porn...wow...

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  3. I would think that in porn the thrusting with the hand is done because of two main reasons: you get the idea of "wow, look at how much she can take", and also you can't visually show any inner manipulations so you're really limited to the outside view.. and small subtle stuff really doesn't show up well on camera.

    As far as what feels good - you don't have to have an experienced partner as the receiver. I certainly wasn't. It helps if the giver is experienced, or at least has researched a general idea of what to try.

    Tangential story: at one point this same partner mentioned that he really enjoys it when a girl deep throats him. I really didn't have a clue how to do it properly, so I looked up several tutorials. (God I love the web.) Tried the techniques on my next partner, who had never had it done to him before and was shocked / amazed / extraordinarily grateful. So again, the receptor does not have to have prior experience to tell you what feels good. :)

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  4. I want to find an experienced receiver so that I can be a better giver to others later. That's true for most things, sexual or otherwise.

    I've never been deep-throated, but I'm picky about my oral sex, so I'm not sure if I'd like it or not. But yes, the internet: It knows so much!

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