Thoughts and discussions on ethical hedonism, sex, pleasure, and the good things in life.
I have never had safe oral sex. Either way. With anyone. As aware and etc as I am, as careful as I am about using condoms otherwise, this boggles me, but it just hasn't ever been something I've done. I've had STD scares from this type of behavior as well, but never enough to make me seriously change my ways. -sin
Our first time ever swinging, we used dental dams and condoms, but never again, even with our other more safety-conscious friends. And judging by the responses I'm getting, it seems like that's totally normal. Strange, but fascinating.
I take it back - I did it once in college with a banana at a safe sex workshop. I have discussed this same weirdness with other friends - as responsible as we all are, no one seems to take this precaution. But if you need them, the bay area is ample with dental dams! - s
They're not at all fun to use (even less fun than condoms) - they slip around (taking one or both of your hands to hold), they really decrease pleasure sensations, and they're decidingly unsexy. Sex is better without condoms, but I don't mind them nearly as much as I do dental dams. This is one safe-sex oversight I can live with =)